'Titles' by zowie.lee.mcc
Thursday, September 27, 2007
This week I've been thinking alot about 'titles'. The main thing I had in mind was titles given to relationships. Although girl-boy relationships are given various titles, I, on the other hand, have been thinking alot about friendship titles.

When a friendship is given a title, for example 'best friends' or 'sisters' even, if you get into some sort of routine calling this person your 'best friend', after a while it just sticks, even if the actual meaning behind it doesn't really exist anymore. All relationships (im talking about friendships in particular) in life face some sort of problem, it could be something really minor, or something completely major, either way, there will be problems! Although alot of friendships face these problems and get through them with their title and the meaning behind the title still in tact, some friendships just aren't as strong, and they can only handle so many problems before the meaning behind the title kind of just... disappears. Yes, the title still stands, the words are there, but beneath that lies absolutely nothing.

Situations like these often confuse me. I mean, I know there are many things in life that are said to be 'more important' but actually... friendships and relationships that consist of love and care are actually one of the most important things in life. Without love, life would not be worth living, honestly. But then again, if you're in a friendship that is talked about as if it is full of 'love' when really that 'love' isn't so strong and the real friendship under the title is non-existent, then something has to be done! The only thing is... how? I mean, think about it! If your 'best friend' were to come up to you and say "hey, you know, i think things have changed. Maybe we say we're best friends, but actually, we aren't, are we?!" It's not like you'd reply "Yeah, for sure! Let's just call the whole thing off!" Because if you were to say something like that, you'd be the one who looks bad. Therefore, instead of saying how you really feel about the situation you'd reply "Huh? What do you mean? You're my BEST FRIEND! Our friendship is so much more than just a title!" The only thing with that is the fact that the friendship is then turned into a complete LIE!

In a situation like this, I wouldn't know what to do. Just because i wrote this, it doesn't necessarily mean that I'm in this situation, but I will admit that I've been in a situation similar to this in the past. Unfortunately, that situation wasn't resolved. I wouldn't say I'm still dealing with it, but I am still dealing with the whole 'title' thing being stuck in place the way that it is. But I guess everything happens for a reason, right?! So maybe, just maybe, something good, will come out of something as deceitful as a lie.

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'Jersey Boys' Response
Thursday, September 6, 2007
People's lives often make good material for movies, stage shows, books, and art. How many new conceptions of the 'Last Supper' have we seen in this lifetime? Those people who were lucky or unfortunate enough to have their lives immortalized in media have had stories worth telling and tales worth experiencing. Some of the things these people go through you just have to wonder, "Man, how'd that work out?" Because despite everything - everything going against them, everything going for them - they make it out in the end. Maybe as a complete failure, maybe as a total hit. Whatever the case, their lives were worth noting.

Most of what's out there now is fluff. And don't think that it's only E! that's rolling out all of the rubbish...

There are stories out there though, of a different kind. Some of these other stories, whether you may agree with them or disapprove of everything that they stood for, can touch you in a place somewhere deep that you would have never expected to be rattled. Looking at it pragmatically, you wonder why such a story could bring tears to your eyes. It's the normal fame, sex, drugs, and rock and roll. Why does it make a connection with something within you? Hasn't everything that could be said, been said?

There's just something about it that connects with us, but we can't quite put a finger on it. It moves us to bits and shatters our defensive wall into pieces. It screams out, "Hey! I'm talking to you!" and how can you possibly ignore that when the voices are so mesmerizingly close. Funnily enough they don't stalk you down the street. They stand as a wallflower as you do a double-take and only after much internal debate with yourself do you decide to go check out what else they have to say to you.

Most people tune in expecting to hear something profound or inspirational. Most times it isn't what we want to hear. And even if what they say has nothing to do with your life we make the connections. His daughter's death makes you realize how neglected your own children are, the musician's suicide attempts makes you see how lucky you are to be poor and, abandonment cases make you thankful for those few special people in your life that are there for you even if it is only for those short two minute conversations every other day as you both head off to work..

Before you know it the voice of the story has spent the night and shared your breakfast with you. You desperately try to hold on to it because you know once it leaves it'll leave that gaping hole of a mark. You try to savor every last moment as it slips out of your hands but the tighter you cling the faster it disappears. Just like certain people in your life, they weren't meant to stay. Just leave that mark.

And oh, what a mark it leaves.


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